The Caffeine Hit

Thanks LSB for the "Coffee" prompt for Quote Quest #33. The quote really 'hit' the spot.

"A morning coffee is my favorite way of starting the day,
settling the nerves so that they don't later fray!"

I have three short anecdotes to share.

Back in 1981 I was on my first business trip to America. An English colleague was in Boston at the same time and we caught up over morning tea. I ordered coffee and got a cup poured from the jug of brew that had been stewing on the warmer for hours (yuck), and my friend ordered tea. Now this was when tea bags were coming into vogue and they were new to my English friend - he proceeded to tear open the tea bag and tip the tea leaves into his cup. So I explained that one dangles the tea bag in the hot water. So as instructed, having added the hot water, he then proceeded to dangle the sugar sachet in his cup.

On my way across country, I was flying TWA, the hostie came around with the drinks trolley. I asked her for some of her best TWA tea. She slapped my face. What is it with Americans and their dislike of tea? (A mate explained my mistake to me later).

Back in Melbourne, there was a Lady Of Pleasure I visited regularly about 10 years ago. She had told me that a good coffee peaked her sexual arousal (the only person I know of with that reaction). Well this day, when she saw that her next booking was with me, she made herself a double espresso in preparation. In the bedroom, she proved her point. In greeting, her French kissing tickled my tonsils. She threw me onto the bed, straddled me and sat on my face and worked her clit and vulva on my tongue and mouth to her first orgasm. At the same time, she had bent forward to suck me like a Hoover. As her arousal built even high, she swung her leg around and impaled herself on me. Now this Lady was quite unique with her muscle control and vulva manipulation. The best description I could come up with, was that it was like passionate Deep French Kissing (DFK) - I dubbed her style Deep French Fucking (DFF) - I don't think I've had a lady with such skills before or since. I never did find out the brand of coffee she drinks!

Lustless Relationship Survivors Memorial

Survivors

I've just been watching on TV, the US National Covid-19 Memorial service and was moved to write this post. First, can I reach out in love and compassion to fellow bloggers that have family that have had or are currently going through Covid-19 illness. Receive our virtual hugs from near (appropriately socially distanced) and far.

The second trigger was a survey on twitter that I saw yesterday, about frequency of sex in a relationship, showed that 30% of respondents  said "What sex?".

Memorial - Sharing Pain

So I just want to reach out to fellow sufferers/survivors of lustless relationships, to let you know you are not alone, that by sharing our experiences in our blogs that we are supporting each other. Frankly, when I read posts of wonderful sex between couples, I sometimes have my eyes well up a little, not exactly in jealousy, but a with twinge of pain.

But let's also remember and reach out to our partners that have lost or never had libido. In neurophysiological literature, like this, we see the multi-faceted parts of the brain involved in sexual arousal. In our current context, it is important to note the functions of the 'prefrontal cortex' and 'cingulate cortex' in blunting or suppressing sexual response and processing conflicting responses. 

• There are small numbers whose brain fails to develop certain parts (nature). 
• Then there are those whose nurture has trained their brains with so much negativity to human sexuality, that those blunting, suppression circuits over-ride sexual stimulation. The 'training' doesn't have to be explicitly sex-negative - growing up under an abusive parent can leave an indelible scar of negative feelings about that gender in general.
  
• Even a simple fall off a bicycle by a child, can cause Acquired Brain Trauma which can damage those delicate libido circuits. 
• Lets remember especially, those girls that through cultural norms, have had their genitals mutilated to deliberately deny them sexual pleasure.
• Lets remember couples who's relationship has broken down in the broadest sense, that withdrawal of sexual relations comes out of anger and punishment.
• Now we come to the later-life loss of libido, that once was present, but lost due to accident, disease, aging or high pressures of life. Aging libido is often just  slowing of response and lack of spontaneous response. The other side of that coin is organic disease where despite libido desire, the body doesn't respond - the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Some diseases, say like testicular cancer, so mess with a man's self-image, that their libido is irreparably psychologically damaged. I've heard similar stores about women after a mastectomy. After aging, the largest numbers would be car accident victims, whether ABT or paraplegia.
  

The Other Half

So how do we, the other half of the situation, cope with endless 'head-aches', 'sympathy fucks' ("Oh, alright if you must. Hurry up, hop on and get it over with"), to outright withdrawal of intimacy - 'don't touch me', to separate bedrooms? There are three responses needed:-

• Where libido is simply diminished or slow to respond, we the other party, must never pressure, but work to remove external pressure, make special times together and enjoy what you can achieve together.
  
• Relationship repair and nurture. Note however, that many of the above causes can't be 'fixed' with counseling of psychology. It is mostly a matter of making the most of what you do have, non-sexually. But if there is broad relationship breakdown, perhaps the best solution is to sever the relationship sooner than later.
  
• The other is recognizing your own needs for happiness, to Love Yourself. Hopefully, you can get your partner to at least understand, agree with or go along with your solution. It might be having your partner assist you in relieving your ache. At the other extreme you might need to pay for transactional relief.
  

God Given Sex

Finally, in response to the religious sex-negative types. Sex and libido are God given parts of our lives. I would venture to say that they are the most God-like parts of our being, in that they are the core of the creation of life. Couples that enjoy great sex, often say that there is a spiritual component to that part of their life. In the Christian bible, in the book of Genesis 1:27-28, God commands, "Go forth and have sex (multiply)", so who are we to disobey God's command.

"Love Your Partner As Yourself"

 

Sex and the Library

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A New York City librarian is getting married to her Mr. Big. But her three best girl-friends must console her when they discover in a four-some, just how BIG Mr big is - he is more than one young virgin bride can take alone.

Starring:- Barah Sexxica Farker, Cum Kattail, Sinful Knickersoff, Cravin Dicksin and Hisnob "Horse" Steed!

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Your mission #451, if you wish to accept,
is to replace any word in a Film Title
with the word 'Library'

MMMMMemories

Come masturbation Mondays, erotic porn is all very well for some inspiration, but you can't beat IRL MMMMMemories to Celebrate.

This post is a rework and extension of some previous posts.

Meeting Ruby

I first Ruby in 2014 and was amazed that I had found such a passionate, horny, squirty nymphomaniac. My third visit was just prior to Christmas, and I posted "Christmas Drinks at the Y".

A Present

Our friendship grew with monthly make-outs through the following year. She had always admired my silky black thong and after a visit home to China, she returned with a present for me, a lovely multi-coloured pair of knickers/g-string.

There's Many a Slip Twixt the Cock and the Slit

We had been having rollicking great times for about 3 years, when I arrived for this particular booking, but Ruby wasn't quite ready. I was shown to a bedroom and showered and lay naked on the bed waiting. Now it seems the receptionist doesn't tell the ladies the name of who a booking is with. When Ruby opened the door, resplendent in black G string and negligee and she saw it was me, she rushed to the bed and immediately jumped my bones.

Without a word, she had my head in her hands and tongue down my throat. Little Tom was enjoying a lovely 'panty slide'. I slipped my hands inside her negligee top to squeeze her breasts and my thumbs massaged her very prominent brown nipples. I swear, Ruby's nipples must be wired directly to her clit, because there is an immediate reaction inside the sheer material sliding over my cock. Her body jumps into high gear. Our kissing becomes intensely passionate and our pubes are grinding ever harder. Her panties are slick in less than a minute and I am sliding in the groove of a wonderful 'camel-toe'.

God, its amazing how a piece of clothing can be so erotically alluring, how a piece of silk can promise so much, but not just yet. Delayed gratification intensifies the desire.

Our grinding is now round and round, up and down, side to side. I can  feel the hem edging. Little Tom is edging. There's many a slip twixt the cock and the slit!

We roll apart whilst I remove her negligee and soaking panties. We roll together for a cuddle. I look into her eyes and say "Well, hello to you too!"

An Australian Welcome

I roll her onto her back and proceed down to give 'the ladies' a welcoming Australian Kiss.  In almost no time flat her body tenses in orgasm and I get my first mouthful of her wonderful warm squirt. We proceed with increasing intensity with 3 or 4 more mouthfulls.

The Flood of Linctus

Ruby grabs my head and pulls me up her body for some deep French kissing. My cock is lying across her very wet, slick slit. Suddenly, without releasing her kiss, she grabs my shoulder and rolls me onto my back and straddles me. Still in a passionate embrace, she proceeds with her amazing pussy slide, working her clit along me. She has just slid up me with her labia just gripping the tip of my glans, when she stiffens, sits bolt upright, lifting off me and releases a flood of warm linctus over my stiff cock and down my loins.

As her orgasm subsides, she lies down on me again, sliding her clit over me and devouring my tongue in passionate DFK. The above repeats 3 or 4 times more, each time in increasing passion.

The last time, her labia are still gripping my glans as her linctus floods over me. Then she suddenly slides right down onto me.

OMG! 

Has this really happened? We had never talked about going Bare-Back, though with a hotty like Ruby, I couldn't help having fantasized about it. Now we had talked about my vasectomy in the past and the fact that I 'shot blanks' and only made 'non-cream pies'. Now Ruby was very popular, but none of the Punter Reviews had even hinted that BB might be available. I guess, over 3 years, our knowledge and trust of each other had grown, so that in the passion of the moment, we just naturally went with the flow.

Her Kegal muscles grip me tightly as she grasps my face and kisses passionately. My hands are on her breasts and my thumbs gently massage her very hard, erect nipples. This tips her over the edge and a deep-down vaginal orgasm builds up. It is quite different from a clitoral orgasm. It starts with deep-down rumbling that rolls up to the G-spot and vaginal opening and then the convulsions develop in an inward, sucking type movement. Thrusting is almost impossible. Resistance is impossible and my own orgasm explodes, as her orgasm sucks every last drop out of me. Her convulsions ease off, but her muscles still hold me in tightly, as we embrace, hot and perspiring. As her muscles finally relax, I roll off and we cuddle side by side - definitely a 10 on my fuchter scale.

After Shocks

Within a minute, she has a small 'after-shock' orgasm and she giggles. She must have had 6-7 'after-shocks' before finally coming down to rest. We cuddle and rest, breathless, with broad smiles.

After cooling down and some pillow small-talk, we reluctantly head to the shower to wash each other down.

Retirement and Memories

Sadly Ruby has retired from the bedroom, but MMMMemories last for ever!

Skivvies are Lingerie?

OMG. "Strip down to your skivvies" to join the 'Lingerie is for Everyone' revolution. What a blast from the past. It must be over 40 years since I wore a skivvie, and then for a trip to the snow fields.

Here in Melbourne, Australia, we are in the middle of summer, so a vest/singlet is the best I could come up with. 

Even though Melbourne is Australia's southernmost mainland capital city, it still has a 'mediterannean' climate. Although it is the middle of summer, we are in the middle of a 'la nina' event of a mixture of temperate (23C) wet days and hot (35C+) days. So a  skivvie is definitely not in my wardrobe.

PS: The 'Spoilt' nickers are part of a pair I custom printed - my LOP 'buddy' got a 'Spoiler' pair (she works at Spoilers Relaxation Centre).

PPS: "Skivvie" or "Skivvy" in Australia was a brand name for a knitted cotton, long sleeve, roll neck garment which could be worn as an under garment or outer. I'm not sure what other countries define as a "skivvie".

Sexual Independence Day - Hot Rodding Mai (2007)

Content Warning! Contains graphic sexual descriptions, originally written as a personal journal for private use.

An Old (2007) FOTM Journal

I was going through some old archives on my computer recently in an 'iso' cleanup moment, and came across the following in my old FOTM Journal from 2007 (this was before my BLOG). OMG, 2007 - checking my diary, I see that Mai was only the 3rd LOP I had the pleasure of after finally giving up on a lustless marriage, and diving into the world of transactional sex. After Mai, I was well and truly hooked. Wow, is this what marital sex was supposed to be like? Woo; Hoo; Celebration!!! Sexual Independence Day! "Happy New Year Life"!

---xxxXxxx---

The Need For a Quickie

"It is a Wednesday evening in the middle of January (2007) and I really need a fuck. I think I'll try out 'Night Moves', a cheaper Asian 'jìyuàn' (brothel) in Melbourne's eastern suburbs. It is an old house in an industrial area. I park around the back and go and knock on the door. The "mamasan" is quite young and brusk. She takes me straight to a bedroom to meet the available girls. She quotes me the prices and I ask for a "quickie" 20 minute 'xìngjiāo'.

The room is very basic, really in need of tarting up.  A mirror across the bedhead has a crack. A curtain hangs off the end of the curtain rail.  No luxury here. The shower 'cubicle' in the corner is so small, that if I drop the soap, I will have to open the door to bend over to pick it up.

The Introduction

The girls file in and introduce themselves in very broken English that I can barely understand.  Mamasan comes back and asks who I would like.  I ask for Mai, a very small, slightly built Chinese girl.  I quickly shower in the corner cubicle.  I am drying off when Mai comes in.  Even small talk is very difficult with her poor English.

Before I can even get to her, she has slipped her clothes off.  Her head barely reaches the top of my chest. I pull her to me.  She apologies that she is so small, as I touch her breasts - just rather prominent erect nipples with no breast to speak of at all.  She starts to rub her body against me.  I can feel her public hair against my rising cock.  I run my hands down her back and over her bum.  After more rubbing, my erection is full and Mai steps back, unwraps a condom and kneels down to roll it on me (Ed. this was before I needed Viagra - oh the memories of a natural hard-on).  She then starts to give me head.  She is straight forward and fast, no real deep throat.

Impaled

After a couple of minutes of sucking, I don't want a blow job,  I help her stand up.  We are still standing beside the bed.  She is so small and light, I have an idea.  I place my hands under her arm pits and lift her up and impale her straight onto my waiting hot rod - she was already hot and wet and receptive.  Her legs wrap around my waist.  She lets out a little giggle and an "Oooh!". A new move for her?

"Ooooh, Yeah!" Hot Rodded (not Mai though)

She proceeds to lift her body up and down, quite fast, fucking me like a bitch on heat.  She is so light, it is no effort at all.  We fuck for a couple of minutes but I don't want to come this quickly, so I lift her off and lie her back on the bed.

I get a good look at her now, spreadeagled before me.  Her skin is china white.  Her erect nipples are dark brown with no discernible areola and virtually no swelling boobs.  Her pubes are unshaven with just a small black 'landing strip'.  Her labia petals are swelling open already. 

"Avante"

Mai lifts her arms to me, inviting me to enter her.  I reach me hand to her fanny, but she takes it away, drawing me down.  I slide up her tiny body until my cock is 'kissed' by her hot, wet, waiting labia, and I easily slip straight in.  I no sooner have my prick in her kitty, than she starts to fuck, fast.  Her cunt is tight and I feel her muscles wrapped around my rod as she thrusts, up and down, back and forth, fucking, fucking, fucking.  With each withdrawal, I feel her pussy lips sucking my cock back in.  I know this is going to be a quickie. 

I pull back, sliding out of her ravishingly hot depths and roll her onto her stomach.  I lift her thighs to my height and kneel behind her.  I feel for her fanny with my fingers, but Mai is already gaping in anticipation.  She wriggles her bum back until her slick cunt slides onto my aching, waiting rod.  We start to fuck again, she’s rocking her whole body, backward onto me, then forward, her tight twat gripping the tip of my cock with her lips, not letting me slip out, then she thrusts back onto me, her bum slapping into me lap.

Raw Lust - Hot Rodding Mai

Our pace quickens, fuck, slap; in, out; thrust, suck.  Boy she is a good fucker, like a rooting rabbit.  Her pussy is super hot now, even through my condom.  My rod is stiffening even harder and tingling.  I can feel my cum rising in my shaft.  I want to come.  I need a quickie tonight.  I fuck harder and faster till my prick can hold it no longer.  With a final thrust and slap, I ram my cock as far up Mai's cunt as I can and hold her, slamming against her cervix. Her kegel muscles clamp tightly around me trying to suck the cum out of me.  My hands are around her small chest tweaking her nipples.  My cock is throbbing, pulsing, then there is a flood of warmth as my cum fills my rubber.  I hold there for a minute as the last of my spasms subsides and her kegels finally relax their grip. Definitely an 8.5 on the 'fuchter' scale. No "Girl Friend Experience", no 'connection', no kissing, no oral on her, just pure, raw lustful fucking.

Mai quickly pulls off me and walks around the bed. I sit on the side as she quickly cleans me up with a handful of tissues.  I shower and dress. I don't think I got my full 20 minutes, but it was an awesome, quickie hot fuck.  Mai is a consummate professional prostitute.  Get the money, get him up quickly and fuck hard and fast."

---xxxXxxx---

My 'Number' - Measuring Up

I generally don't like to dwell on numbers, but less than 50 times in 35 years of marriage (and barely 10% of those enjoyable)? WTF? Why/how did I wait so long? I guess marriage can survive (just) on care and love alone. Compare that to 300+ times (they are $250/hr after all, not live-in arrangements) with about 100 different wonderful, hot ladies, some outright nymphomaniacs, in 13 years. 

What Does the Future Hold?

But here I am now at 72, with post prostate cancer radiotherapy ED. What will 2021 hold? I will continue my trial 'treatment' of regular low-dose Viagra tablets, with a high dose boost when needed. I have some very understanding regular LOPs, with whom I can go for a 'test drive'. Perhaps the memories of Mai might give me a little extra stimulation. I do have 13 years of wonderful memories to reminisce over, even if I can't get a 'hot rod' anymore just reading them!

Click to see who else has been wicked this Wednesday!