Fucking Like A Whore?

Let me start with an apology to any readers that might find this subject matter confronting. As broad-minded sex bloggers, we must sometimes confront the bad, the ugly and sometimes simply different preferences to our own. But hang in to the end as I draw the threads together!

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Flirt like a girl,

Seduce like a woman,

Fuck like a whore!

I came across this quote recently on Twitter (@LostSoul2809). The thinking here seems to be that whores are MILFs that fuck with boundless, unbridled passion.

Fucking Like a MILF vs Fucking Like a Whore

Sure, a small percentage of whores are of MILF age. But the quality of sex is never dependent on the marital or parental status of a person or whether money has changed hands. Quality is always dependent on the connectedness and caring between a couple.

The types of whores and their services are as varied as the men that see them.

Whoredom - Who, Why, What!

To understand their services, one needs to understand the different reasons girls/women get into "whoredom".

• Quick money, typically students, for a limited time, though sometimes looking for a 'husband' for a 'green-card'. Experience ranges from the neophyte to the libidinous dilettante. The key words are "quick" and "money".
• A sub-set of the above, are the 'sex doll' types. They think their looks are all that is needed to hook a guy, but sex is a 'star fish' experience, a cum-dump receptical - easy money.
• The partnered worker. Generally a bit older, 25 upwards, with a husband, partner or boyfriend, though typically not yet a MILF. Her service will be colder, reserving kissing, fingering, oral-on-her, orgasms etc., for her partner.
• The divorced, separated or widowed. Perhaps with no career backup and sometimes raising children alone, sex work provides a comfortable income with flexible hours. They are generally more sexually experienced, the classic 'MILF', although a wide range of experience is found. Some are reserved, others never want a man in their personal life again, and use their sex work to satisfy their own sexual needs (with the right type of client). This is my play-ground.
• The professionals have made sex work their career. They have trained in specialist/extreme techniques and the line between professional actress and personal enjoyment is blurred.

Orgasms, Enjoyment or Mattress Actresses

I would venture a guess that only 2% of 'whores' orgasm sometimes and perhaps 30% 'enjoy' the sex, from a lot to a little. They all tolerate it for the money. They are not called "mattress actresses" for nothing - "faking it till he makes it" is very much the norm. 

Then of course there is 'The Clock' - fucking stops when the money/time runs out. Do you really want to or expect your partner to 'fuck like a whore'?

Kink, Consent and Expectations

On the other hand, if you you have flirted and seduced with the sole purpose of a NSA one-night-stand to satisfy your own sexual kink, then by all means, 'fuck like a whore'. Just make sure you are both fucking from the same play-book and understand each other's expectations.

The Attraction of MILFs (and GILFs)

As a term, 'MILF' is rather derogatory, often used by young men with no idea about respect or maturity. It is especially disrespectful as a call-out to a person that you know nothing about, based purely on appearance.

But as a concept, I think it is something to be treasured and aspired to. As a self ascribed label,  a woman is asserting her sexual desirability irrespective of age - desire doesn't stop after children. Once the pressure of trying to find "the one", a life partner, is past, then the biological clock of having a family, a woman over forty can put all that behind her. Sex should now be for fun and pleasure alone. She is at her sexual prime. A lot of promotion is put into 'Work/Life' balance, but we really need to put more effort into our 'Life/Sex' balance.

But wait. Let's not be sexist. Ladies, do you dream of your FILTH (Father/husband I Love To Hump)?

Vive la MILF (and GILF, even GrGILF, and FILTH)! (Speaking as a self proclaimed DOM!)

Click to see who else is being Wicked this Wednesday #459,
with or as a MILF.

Pocket Pussy DIY Surgery

Unfortunately, sex toys for men don't get much press, after all, a man would have to be really desperate to use one of them, wouldn't he? If a man can't get a women and has to resort to a silicone toy or doll - well, it's just not 'manly'!

Now, I've never done a toy review before (and probably won't again). This is not a solicited nor paid review. I'm not reviewing, nor recommending a specific brand, its more a review of the generic type of toy and the 'surgery' required to make it truly usable. I've included pictures of the box of the specific device I used.

With the Covid-19 pandemic lock-down and my specific health situation, desperate times call for desperate measures. In a previous post about recovering from radiotherapy for prostate cancer, I described my use of a penis pump vacuum device (though not a real review as such), which elicited some positive comments. So I was moved to try and now review a silicone vagina device. 

'Pocket pussies' come in a wide range of styles, sizes and prices ('Pocket Pussy' is a colloquial generic name for these types of toys and not a specific toy's name). Some claim to have molded their toy's labia from real life porn stars - a good marketing ploy to ask a higher price, I'm sure. But see my comments below about the comparison of the toy's labia to real women I have licked, sucked and fucked. Probably the best known brand is the Fleshlight range. My review is based on a cheap, generic variety, "Fresh Innocence - Jodie".

First we will look at the claims printed on the box.

• Tight smooth opening, simulates virgin's vagina to give you that fresh and tight sensation every time. Yes, but too tight/small - see comments.
  
• Easy grip. Yes.
  
• Noduled love tunnel has strategically placed nodules for arousal, intensity and pleasure. Yes, but dependent on lube.
• Smooth texture to give you the most realistic and orgasmic sensation. Yes.
  
• Hygienic and easy to clean. Yes.
• Length - 5", 5.5" and 6" available.
• Fabrication material - TPR (Thermo Plastic Rubber -  PVC- and BPA-free)

Initial Trial

The immediate impression is how small the labia and vulva opening are. The opening is about the size of a pencil (OK for 'pencil dicks' I suppose). With copious lube and the flexible stretching of the material, penetration was finally achieved after much manipulation (and my member is only average in length and girth). But if this was a girl IRL, I could be arrested for statutory rape.

It is obvious that these types of toys are NOT suitable for arousal or achieving an erection initially. A good hard erection is essential before attempting penetration.

I found that the amount of lube required to achieve penetration negated the feeling of the internal nodules. IRL, I would class this 1st trial as a 'star fish' experience.

'Surgery' and 2nd Trial

Now I'm not the sort of person to give up easily - I'm a 'Fix It' sort of man. So I got out my sharp pointed craft knife to perform 'surgery' on my toy's vagina opening. Note that TPR cannot be 'sliced', I had to insert the point and pull out to achieve a tear. See before and after photos.

For my 2nd trial, I decided to use saliva as my lube. The Tongue Engine found the experience not unpleasant. Penetration now came more naturally, but by now my erection was loosing hardness, so I never reached the inner sanctum in this trial.

3rd Trial

So I resorted to the good ole regulars of porn, self talk, imagination and hand masturbation. I continued until orgasm was nearing, and then returned to my 'pocket pussy'. Now the noduled love tunnel really lived up to the claim of arousal, intensity and pleasure, bringing me to a quite intense orgasm. Now for someone like me suffering ED that often doesn't climax at all, and if and when, then just a small squirt with little intensity, my PP orgasm was very nice.

General Comments

This particular toy has a bar-bell type shape, so the narrow middle allows a full wrap around hand grip. The outer end has another pencil size hole to prevent any vacuum effect and to facilitate cleaning. In use, whilst thrusting its not unlike hitting the cervix at the end of the vagina.

The material is sufficiently stretchy and strong to allow it to be stretched over a tap head to flush water through it for cleaning. A couple of fingers inserted also facilitate washing around the nodules inside. I found I could work a handkerchief through the device with my fingers to help drying the inside.

Conclusion

Remember that these comments relate to a specific make/model, though I suspect the issues I've raised should be considered whatever brand you buy. 

Further, I am reviewing from the perspective of senior citizen with post prostate cancer ED. But a shy teenager just starting to explore the possibilities of penetrative sex, would find such a toy useful 'training wheels'.

Would I recommend the use of a 'Pocket Pussy'? Considering all the issues described above, it would be a qualified 'yes'. For $30 for an 'entry level' device (excuse the pun), its worth a try, but 'surgery' may be required. But would I pay $100 for a top-of-the line toy or $3000 for doll, no way. When Covid restrictions have eased enough, then my $300/hr Ladies Of Pleasure leave these toys at the bottom of the toy box.

K - Kissing

Kissing is one of those activities that can cover a multitude of situations. There is the simple greeting kiss on the cheek(s), which can be between friends or familial. There is the welcome back/home kiss, intense and longing. There is the goodbye kiss, also often long but sad. A variation of the goodbye kiss, is the chaste goodbye (its over), extra sad. At the other extreme is the Judas kiss.

Coming to romantic kissing, there are the erogenous kisses, caressing and exploring all the various erogenous zones of each other's bodies. Then there is the very special vulva kiss, the "Australian Kiss" or Dining At The 'Y'.

I was reminded of this kissing subject, cooling down after a very hot session with a favourite Lady Of Pleasure and she complimented me on my kissing style. She then made a comment about another client's kissing style (open mouthed) that she found a total turn-off. Thus our conversation turned to various kissing styles that we had encountered, both as client and service provider.

Top (or is that bottom) of my list (of turn-offs), is the "non-kisser" - she thinks it is 'too personal'. OK, I respect her choices but I reserve my choice to not book her. "Too personal"? WTF? She isn't taking me into the bedroom to shake hands after all? This is a warning sign of a possible "star-fish" experience.

Then there is the "tight lipped" kisser. She might as well be a "non-kisser". I expect this sort of kiss from my maiden aunt.

Turning to the slightly quirky, there is the "lip nibbler" (top or bottom) - usually as a way of kissing yet avoiding "the tongue!"

Next is the "open mouther" my friend described. I find it hard to imagine - he "kissed" her with mouth fixed open with no movement of lips or tongue - strange!

The "hot-rod tongue" kisses with his/her tongue held hard and straight into the other's mouth.  When I encounter this type, I am tempted to suck on it like a lollipop. When used in cunnilingus, many ladies find this "tongue fucking" a bit of a turn-off too until she is good and ready.

Then there is the "not after you've been down there" type. OK, I respect her choice. I just wish I knew at the start so we could arrange our "moves" in a more suitable sequence.

Now we come to my type - "French" kissing (or DFK). This kissing is dynamic as lips and tongue caress each other and intertwine.  My best ladies and I find it such a turn-on.

Finally, the converse of the "not after you've been down there" type, you occasionally meet a "snow baller" - after having Cum In her Mouth (CIM) you then share your linctus together. Its not to every-body's taste mind you. Conversely, if I have given her a cream-pie, I am a gentleman and I am more than ready to clean up my mess and share if she likes. My mother always said, "Don't lick the plate!", but I never took any notice of mother.

Have I missed any styles?

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this Wicked Wednesday #458

Respecting Personal Preferences & Space

The big lie of the anti-prostitution lobby (and Hollywood) is the "straw-man" argument that generalizes all "working" ladies as down-and-out drug addicts controlled and abused by their "pimps".  Of course, nothing could be further from the truth.

However, as punters it is also easy for us to fall into the trap of expecting all "services" to be the same just because we are paying for them.  But these ladies are individuals with their own preferences and prejudices, feelings and foibles, from the same gamut of backgrounds and relationships as we of the punter population, and deserve to be shown the same respect as anyone else.

Because the service she is selling is such a personal service, unlike any other service or goods for sale, it is imperative that the buyer and the seller should come to an understand at the very beginning of what the ground-rules, preferences and boundaries are. (However, what I am not particularly happy with are the artificial boundaries some ladies put up simply to extract extra cash).

For example, anyone who has 'known' a number of ladies quickly discovers that there is a wide range of natural kissing styles, just as I am sure the ladies will say the same about the gentlemen they see.  But what we are discussing here is when a lady finds passionate kissing too "personal" for her liking - perhaps she has a special friend or partner for whom she wants to reserve that right.  Respect her choice.

If a lady is not comfortable with something you are asking for, then don't make the booking.  If she is offering services beyond your comfort zone, then draw your line - if its in the middle of service just say "I'm not comfortable with that, lets not go there".  Respect each others choices.

I have encountered a wide range or ladies' preferences, from the "star fish" that wanted no personal interaction at all and saw her role purely as a "receptical" for her client (never booked her again), to the almost sex-crazed nymphomaniac (a regular I see as often as I can cope with her).

So lets look at some of these personal preferences:-

Kissing restriction on certain erogenous zones (ear lobes, neck, nipples, toes, etc)? Respect her preferences.

Oral on you, yes, no, with or without? (Note in some Australian states, this is now a legal issue though how it can be policed beats me). Respect her preferences.

Blow-job - COF, Spanish, CIM, swallow? Respect her tastes.

Oral on her, yes or no? Respect her preferences.

Fingering - clitoral stimulation only or internal G-spot? Respect her preferences.

Use of toys? On her? On you? Food as toys? Respect each others preferences.

Fantasies and dress-up? Type? 'French Maid' might be OK, but 'baby diaper' might be too far.  Respect her preferences.

'Dirty' talk? Respect her preferences.

Sexual intercourse itself is a given for 'escort' and brothel services, but recognize that ladies that opt for stripper and exotic dancing services are NOT offering full sex.  So don't embarrass yourself and ask or pressure a lady.  Respect her choice.

Then there are services beyond the 'normal' which are more likely to attract an extra charge and are more usually special offerings advertised.

Anal (Greek)?

B&D

Dom/Sub? Pain?

Sex is meant to be an enjoyable activity, so don't spoil it for yourself or your lady by pushing beyond a person's comfort zone.

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Star Fish

I hadn’t really expected to be writing on this topic this early in this BLOG’s life, but into every life, a little rain must fall.

 
I had been seeing a small group of wonderful ladies in the same parlour for quite some time and had accumulated enough ‘points’ on my Loyalty Scheme (“Frequent F**r”) card – 10 visits in 6 months - to receive my ‘freebie’, so I thought it was time to venture to new pastures (well actually an old ‘watering hole’ in the ‘burbs of which I have some fond memories).

 
So I left work 30 mins. early - this parlour is close to my train-station destination - and I had to some shopping on the way home, so I felt I could squeeze in a half-hour visit.  I hoped to see KC, a lady I had a good time with last year, but found the parlour fully booked - one lady was due out in 2-3 minutes.  I waited and met her, but all the lessons I have learnt went out the window - I had forgotten my hearing aids, so combined with her speech impediment/accent, and not asking probing questions, I didn't confirm that she would provide the service I was looking for.  (First rule of 'punting', if no lady meets your requirements, walk away).

 
Needless to say, in the room I find that there is no kissing, no oral, no eye contact, no conversation, no connection.  In some ways, I actually felt sorry for her - she was younger than I had initially thought and had only been in "the industry" for a couple of months, and here she was 'entertaining' a 'senior citizen'.  

Fortunately, there was a "happy ending", which is not always the case with me these days. But no "linctus" today!

 
Ce la vie!  Thank goodness my judgement is usually a lot better - I probably average only one "star-fish" per year.