G - Spot (#AtoZChallenge)

OMG, what am I doing writing about female anatomy and response as a male? I had the same feeling when I wrote my "O-O-O-OMG The Female Orgasm", but on reflection, as a male I have probably seen/experienced more female orgasms than most females. But the G-spot (also called the Gräfenberg spot after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg) - this is a different story, not exactly observable. But it is a subject of some mystery to many, both men and women, so lets see where this post goes.

When I started to research this subject (Wikipedia) it becomes obvious that even specialists can't agree. Does it really exist? Where is it? Is it actually a separate physiological structure or part of something else? The consensus (?) seems to be leaning toward the G-spot being where the ends of the two 'legs' of the clitoral structure, connect to the upper surface of the vagina.

"Two 'legs' of the clitoral structure?" you ask! "Isn't the clitoris that pea sized knob at the head of the vulva?" Well, not exactly. Unfortunately, common knowledge of genital anatomy, is usually only the external pieces (see Wikipedia page on the Clitoris). We now know that the clitoral structure is shaped rather like the old chicken 'wish bone', with the glans protruding with two 'legs' or 'roots' (the cavernosum) running down inside behind the labia, wrapping around the urethra with the ends coming together attached to the top surface of the vagina a couple of cm. up from the entrance. The entire clitoral structure can be between  2 and 3 inches long, and with the cavernosum filling with blood when aroused is the homologue of the male penis. Most of the nerve endings (estimated at about 8000) and sensitivity are in the glans but the legs stimulate the nerves in the labia and vagina walls as they are roused.

Getting back to the G-spot, there is still great disagreement between researchers as to whether the G-spot exists as a separate entity or not. Research has varied between subjective questionnaires to ultrasounds to functional MRIs to autopsy dissections. "In 2009, The Journal of Sexual Medicine held a debate for both sides of the G-spot issue, concluding that further evidence is needed to validate the existence of the G-spot." In 2011, "functional magnetic resonance (fMRI) brain scans showed stimulating the clitoris, vagina and cervix individually, lit up distinct areas of the women's sensory cortex" at least confirming different nervous circuits from different parts of the genitalia and the brain (the most important 'sex organ').

Further, the G-spot debate extends to the inter-relationships between clitoral vs vaginal orgasms, the skenes gland (female prostate) and female ejaculation.

From a logistic perspective, the main problem for 'G-spot' arousal is its position on the upper wall of the vagina, high up just inside the entrance. In normal (missionary) intercourse, the penis doesn't stimulate the G-spot. Arousal is best achieved (if at all) digitally (by either party), or in the "cow girl" position, where the male remains still, and the female can twist and turn to control the best "angle of attack" for her arousal.

The best advice to take out of all of this is to NOT get hung up on whether your woman does or doesn't have a G-spot or whether either of you are stimulating it properly. It doesn't matter. Just enjoy your sex together, encourage each other exploring all the various erogenous zones of both of your bodies, and most of all, have fun.

Sexual pleasure all comes down to the nerve signals sent back to your brain, and the brain is constantly learning new things and re-learning old things (plasticity). As a rule of thumb in learning new things, it takes about 3 months of repeated action for new neuronal circuits to have formed to make the newly learned activity to become a 'habit'. This applies to things like dieting, weight loss, to riding a bike, to juggling, etc. I'm sure the same rule applies for learning new types of sexual pleasure, so practice, practice, practice and eventually it will eventually come 'naturally'. In a coming post, I will discuss "Use It or Lose It" which touches on this topic. And of course the converse applies, it is all too easy to get out of the habit of pleasuring each other.

 

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