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Saturday, 26 October 2019

ED Rehab. - The Journey Commences

I posted recently ("Paradise Lost - Vale Sir Lust") about my impotency issues, 2 years post radiotherapy for prostate cancer. In hind-sight, it was a rather depressing post, written in resignation. But I'm not the sort of person to give up without a fight.

I knew that impotence was a possibility with radical prostatectomy, but had had no warning of the likely-hood of similar effects from radiotherapy. Further, I was a bit disappointed with my urologists' response to my current condition, of only suggesting a penile implant. I wasn't ready to give up on sex completely. I wanted to know more about what medical experts had to say about ED after prostate cancer treatment. So I turned to Dr Google - a number of on-line papers on the subject are listed in the foot-notes, and sections quoted here-in.

Statistics

In summary, between 50% and 85% of patients will suffer ED after treatment within 3-5 years. "The major predictors of recovery are:-
  1. age at the time of radiation: the younger the man is, the better erectile function at the time of treatment and the better the long-term function is going to be;
  2. erectile function at or before the time of radiation;
  3. type of radiotherapy causing less nerve damage of the prostate and the less amount of surrounding tissues exposed to radiation, the better the outcome;
  4. the health of erectile tissues."
"Normal erections generally depend upon 3 processes: 
  1. increased arterial blood flow into the penis by neurological initiation, 
  2. cavernosal smooth muscle relaxation,
  3. restriction of venous blood outflow from the penis.
Impairment of any of these processes can lead to ED". (Viagra works via the first two of these processes).
"If your sexual function's not what it used to be a year or two after prostate surgery, hang in there. Men who are having trouble achieving erections after prostatectomy for prostate cancer can achieve improvement in function that's sufficient for sexual intercourse more than two years later, researchers say.

"The message to patients who have erectile dysfunction -- even those who have failed to have erections after surgery -- is that improvement does occur in a substantial number of men," says researcher Jeffrey Schiff, MD, a resident in urology at the State University of New York Downstate Medical Center in Brooklyn, New York.


Overall, one-third of men with marginal erectile function and one-fourth of men with serious erectile dysfunction 24 months after surgery continue to have improvement in erectile function on follow-up visits, he tells WebMD.
The findings were reported here at the 105th annual meeting of the American Urological Association (AUA)".


Radiation Injury


Radiation affects the erectile processes via damage/injury of the nerves and erectile tissues. The ability to recover depends on the type and degree of damage. A key factor in the healing process is increased blood flow.

Recovery Factors

Major recovery factors include:-
  1. condition of ED prior to treatment;
  2. age of patient - the younger, the better recovery chance;
  3. non-smoker;
  4. non-drinker;
  5. no diabetes or obesity;
  6. controlled blood pressure and cholesterol;
Well, 5 out of 6 gives me hope.
Finally, the age of one's partner is a major factor. +1 for me - all my "buddies" are 20-30 years my junior and all with high sex-drive.

Proactive recovery recommends daily low-dose use of Sildenafil ('Viagra', a PDE5-inhibitor), use of a "cock-ring" to limit venous blood out-flow and regular ejaculations. Improvement will take from 6-24 months.

On to Rehab.

So here I am, starting rehab. I will report and track my progress on this blog conversation, monthly in 6 months. Is recovery more psychological or is physical healing the principal improvement? Let's find out. Please follow and comment if you have a similar situation or concerns.

Footnotes :-

Radiation-induced erectile dysfunction: Recent advances and future directions

ED Can Improve Years After Prostate Surgery

Treating erectile dysfunction after radical radiotherapy and androgen deprivation therapy for prostate cancer




Sunday, 20 October 2019

e[lust] 123 - Paradise Lost - Vale Sir Lust

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Bittersweet Symphony
Breast cancer awareness – check your boobs
The devil is in the detail…

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Metamorphosis: Fat, Fit and In Between
Contraception- life without birth control
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Erotic Non-Fiction

Take It To The Limit

Marshmallows

Spank me Red

Custom Made Cuckold Porn

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Control

The Image (1975): The Celluloid Dungeon

Return to CMnf

Latex for the Curious – Catsuits

Negotiating a stunt cock

Ruby Ring Piece

13 reasons why I love play parties

You Got a Piercing Where?

Erotic Fiction

Alice’s Minotaur: A Ravishment Tale

Shadow of You

Punished

The Jealous Wife

What we both want

Rugby world cup I only care about the fucking

The Red Thread

Frigid

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Loosing My Virginity

5 things that encourage Dominance

My Happy Place is an 80s (Sex) Mansion

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Sex Work – How My Views Have Changed

Golden Brown

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Paradise Lost – Vale Sir Lust

My Nexplanon Implant Story: The Procedure

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Saturday, 5 October 2019

Paradise Lost - Vale Sir Lust

Occasionally we read about those early teen years of discovery, perhaps of illicit liaisons. But we seldom read of the other end of life. Sure we hear of changes during menopause, and of course there is the perpetual whinging of married men saying their wives have lost their libido. Erectile Dis-function gets an occasional mention, but Viagra and Cialis take care of that.

Loss of male libido can have psychological or medicinal causes. But outright physical loss of sexual desire (lust) and function, just silently slides under the covers. 

My ED started at around 60 and I posted "Sex and Aging". But Viagra ushered in a new era for me, but orgasm/ejaculation was less, partly due to the Viagra effects. By age 65, I blogged "As Lust Fades". At 69, prostate cancer was detected -  I opted for radiotherapy, since prostatectomy was more likely to cause impotency. The treatment was a breeze and I celebrated every week of "The 39 Days".

In the 2 years since the radiotherapy, the cancer appears to have gone. But sexual function and libido have just about died. At first, it wasn't just inability to orgasm from sex, but sensitivity and feeling was declining. Add in condoms for transactional sex, the old adage of it being like taking a shower in a rain-coat, was all too true. With the prostate having been zapped, its functionality has declined so the volume of ejaculate is not much more than a dribble. Further, I have found the ED has worsened to the point where even a maximum dose of Viagra doesn't produce a workable erection. Neither porn nor masturbation can produce an erection.

The Urologist suggested that a mechanical implant could help (rod or inflatable balloon), but with no willing partner, no feeling sensations, and no orgasms, there is no point. Alas, Paradise has been lost.

Fortunately, the tongue is still in good working order. But I can't bring myself to pay $300/hr for a kiss and cuddle.

Vale, Sir Lust


Alas Sir Lust, I knew him well, a fellow of infinite jest, of most excellent fancy. He has borne me on his bed a thousand times, and now, how abhorred in my imagination it is! My ire rises at it. Here hang those balls that have been kissed I know not how oft. Where be thy thrusts now? Your gambols? Your songs? Your flashes of merriment that were wont to set the whores on a roar? No one now to mock your limp dangling?

(PS. So what happens to this blog now with the loss of inspiration? Well I still have lots of memories to draw on so I will probably defer to fictional erotic writing.)

Friday, 9 August 2019

Peeping Taboo

Tom and SO had been married about 4 years at the time. The marital bed had gone from cool to icey. This particular night was like so many others, a rejection, argument and cold shoulder. Tom tossed and turned for an hour, whilst SO drifted into a deep sleep, oblivious of Tom's needs and pain. Tom slipped out of bed to get a glass of milk, hoping that would help him get to sleep.

As Tom padded down the dark corridor, he noticed light shining into the dining room. As he slipped into the back corner of the dark room, he could see that light was streaming in from the bedroom window of the house next door. Now Eve, the resident, was a twenty something student, living with her single mum and brother. Eve always seemed a plain Jane as she headed off to college each day in quite dumpy clothes with never an effort to look attractive.

Suddenly the light brightened as the blind was released fully up and Eve stood in the window, obviously just out of the shower. She tousled her hair, then released her towel wrap and stood there, looking out into the darkness, in all he natural naked beauty. Tom could see now that Eve was actually quite a beauty, youthfully trim and taut, obviously sporty, with well developed curves.
Eve reached over to the dresser and got a bottle of body lotion, and proceeded to rub copious lotion all over her body, from head to toe, from tits to twat. She still made no attempt of privacy, standing in front of the window.
Eve now started her pre-bedtime exercises, stretches, squats and backward arches, giving peeping Tom a full-on flash. She then threw a leg high up on the window frame for a full frontal standing splits.

Did she know Tom was watching? Was she hoping he was watching?

She stretched her arms up and started running her fingers down her legs. As she reached her smooth shaven pubes, her fingers lightly slipped through her folds, but not daring to enter her inner sanctum. Tom sensed her tension as her lustful instincts were fighting with her up-bringing taboo, that "nice girls don't play with them-selves down there".

This gave a clue to her late night naked exhibitionism. She must have a dark, deep down lustful desire for exhibitionism, but to do so in front of people was taboo. But in the privacy of her bedroom, with an audience of lustful imaginary eyes in the darkness of a void outside her window, she found her freedom.

With her exercises finished, she reached for her perfume and sprayed her whole body, then slipped into bed, still totally naked, and the lights went off.

Tom was flushed, his heart thumping, and his own hard taboo nudging through his pyjama fly. He went and fetched his glass of milk, then slipped back into his cold bed. He quickly dosed off to sleep, wrapped in wonderful memories of his own personal taboo peep show.
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Saturday, 22 June 2019

e[lust] 119 - Laughter The Best Aphrodisiac

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Poly wobbles

Friendly Concern

Unmentionable

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Breakthrough

Wait Silently

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Sensual Indulgence, Familiar and New

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Unmentionable Lifestyle
In the wild

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Laughter, The Best Aphrodisiac
I Hate Bullies!

Erotic Non-Fiction

Devilish Threesome Fun
Cumming Awake
Flying Chaste

Body Talk and Sexual Health

How Taking Nudes Taught Me To Love Myself
Guest post: Trans access to abortion

Erotic Fiction

Milky Way
More Than Friends Prologue
Desperate
Twisted ~ Into The Woods ~ Lana’s Story
A Gift to the Gods
A New Fetish
Coitus Interruptus Vampyr
Making herself available

Writing About Writing

Smut Marathon - Round 4 Thoughts

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A True Friend
Trust your landmark and run through the smoke
I’m not interested.

Poetry

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Sunday, 2 June 2019

Laughter, the Best Aphrodisiac

It is a neuro-physiological fact that the pleasure centres in the brain, for humour and sex and adjacent, so there is a good reason why we find people with similar sense of humour, attractive.  In the bedroom, humorous banter can heighten sexual enjoyment.
The following stories, all true, have appeared in this blog at various times in the past, but I thought it might be good to bring them all together under the common theme. 

"I'll Have What She's Having"

A couple of years ago, a lady-of-pleasure I was seeing, had earned the nickname from her co-workers, of "Firecracker" because when she orgasmed, she went "off like a fire-cracker" and she could be heard throughout the building.

Well, one day Sam and I were having a good time and she had had one squealing orgasm with my tongue. Once she had settled down a little, as she was sliding onto me, she had the back of her hand wedged in her mouth.  I asked if there was anything wrong.

"I don't want to make too much noise.  There might be someone in the waiting room (next door to our bedroom" was her reply.

"Don't worry about it" I said, "You might give them some encouragement".

She giggled, and came back with "I'll have what she's having!".

Well we both cracked up laughing.  As I laughed, my cock twitched inside her. This was the last straw for her and she started convulsing on me, laughing, squealing and crying all at the same time.  Needless to say, this tipped me over the edge too.  This wasn't just a 'happy ending', it was a 'hilarious ending'.

Dirty Ditties

When FB Amazing Grace found out that I wrote a BLOG, she admitted to having fun making up rhymes.  So we created a game of 'dirty ditties' and 'fractured fairy tales', taking turns to create a new line starting from an old nursery rhyme, etc.  So "Goldie Locks", "Little Red Riding Hood" et al provided many fun rhymes.  If a particular 'dirty ditty' had suitable actions, these were acted out as we went. I must say her rollicking laughs as she 'rode a cock horse' sent wonderful ripples right through our connection.  Sadly, we have lost contact - I really miss those fun times.  I wish I had had a recorder to capture some of those ditties.  One I remember, went:-

"Georgie Porgie full of fun,
Licked the girls and made them come.
With lady come on his chin,
He said with a grin,
Oh what a good boy am I"

Although I am a DOM now, I am still a kid at heart, and 'play time' is my favourite time.  Which reminds me, we certainly gave "Girls and boys come out to play" a jolly rogering!

So next time someone calls me a 'fuck wit', I will take it as a compliment.

Punishment Play

This isn't humour in the direct laughing sense, but a light-humoured form of role-playing. Miss A uses a game of 'punishing' little infractions. On the way up to the bedroom, she stumbled on the stairs, flashing her knickers, and then said, "Were you peeking up my dress? You will have to be punished for that".   Similarly, there will be 'punishment' for 'touching myself' in the shower, and looking at her boobs as she undresses.  Typical punishment might be to make me stand in the 'naughty corner' whilst she sucks me off.  All just playful fun, no real bondage, although once she did tie my hands to the bed-head with her stockings and draped her fragrant knickers over my face so I couldn't see her 'punish' me by having her way with me.

Role-Play

Another fun-time role-play. although not strictly humour, was with Miss D in a Nun's Habit costume. Rather than reproduce the full story here, visit the post "A Bad Habit".

Unintended Humour

Sometimes, something's said quite innocently, but is quite humorous in the situation.
I was undergoing a period of radiotherapy treatment for prostate cancer. One day, I was lying on the radiotherapy table with my pubes and mid-riff exposed.  The female operator was getting me aligned - I have had target marks tattooed on my mid-riff and thighs and a pair of laser beams show the correct alignment. Her cold hands on my thighs push and roll me a little to get alignment right. At which point she says "Beautiful!". I tell her that "Only special ladies are allowed to say that!". I get a little laugh.

A couple of days later, I have the same operator, and she says the same things. This time, I say "Well, thank you!". She says "Your welcome" and we both laugh.

Pillow Banter

Post coital pillow talk is an obvious time for humorous banter when you are both fully relaxed and bodies flooded with feel-good hormones.

Complementary Employment

Often pillow talk with Ladies of Pleasure, turns to the sort of work we do. I asked one particular lady if she had a second job. She told me that she also worked as a receptionist at a Funeral Parlour. "You have a thing about stiffs, do you?" I answered, which brought loud laughter.

Longevity

In a conversation similar to the above, we were talking about marital status. When I told this lady how long I had been married, she asked, "What's your secret to a long marriage?". My answer, "Don't get caught!"

Guess My Age

On another occasion, we were playing the game of trying to guess each others age. I said to Crystal, "Would you believe 48?", to which she tactfully replied, "I would have put you as early 50's". I replied, "No. I mean 1948". (This was over 10 years ago). Shock flashed across her face, and she started counting on her fingers, working out just how much older than her I was. When she realised what she was doing, we laughed and cuddled.

Irony and Humour


In further chatting with the above Funeral Parlour receptionist, she told me of her new boy-friend of 3 months and her issue with the fact that he has yet to make a move to have sex with her (he doesn't know about her sex work). She asked my advice, "What can I do to get my boyfriend to have sex with me?". We had quite a serious conversation about courting, but I couldn't help but have an inward smile about the irony of a sex working asking her client, how to get her boyfriend to have sex with her.

Saturday, 20 April 2019

e[lust] 117 - The Five Senses of Sex

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

A dominant presence

He Gripped Her Hand and Centered Her

Being alone together.

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

What the fig?

Mind and body

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

O! or, errr… NO!: Orgasm Control in an F/m Dynamic

 

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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Fantasies Never Let You Down
My First Love
New Fun with Old Friends
Sometimes coming joint second
emotional disconnection, sex and loneliness
People Don't Talk about This Sh!t

Erotic Fiction

Waking the Fallen
Daisy
opera seria
Catch the Catcher
Club Dress Extended
Dreams ... (the Second : Arabian Nights)
The orgasmic arch

Erotic Non-Fiction

The Five Senses of Sex
A public beating
Rope Dreams

Poetry

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Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Primal Regression and Submission
14 Qualities of a "Good" Dominant
Balance in F/m voices

Events

Do I want you to hold my hand?

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Sex in Class
That's My Kink - All Hail The Nipple Clit

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Why I’m not smiling for IWD

 

 

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