Sunday 22 May 2022

Elust #149 - Having Her Way With Me

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Welcome to Elust 149.

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #150? Start with the rules, and submit a post any time and it will be added to the next edition. Please subscribe to email notifications
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Featured Post by the Winner of Elust Contest for April, The Barefoot Sub.

Turning The Tables

Erotic Fiction

Safe Chapter 5
Moon Feather: Part 38: A Little Scandal
Mistress Widow
Riding Natasha
Strict Legislation

Sex Work

Voulez Vous Coucher Avec Moi, Ce Soir?
In Poland With Mr W and a Suitcase Full of Dildos

Erotic Non Fiction

Having Her Way with Me
Worship
The First Time I Had My Pussy Eaten

Interviews

Podopheleus interviews Oz Bigdownunder
On The Whorizon Interviews Hunny Daniels

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Sex and Polyamory
This…
Permission to come!

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Is Kink (Ever) Wholesome?

Product Reviews

A Witch And Their Wands: Favorite Wand Vibrators
Bubblefunny Bubble Flower Beauty
Types of Dildo Bases ⁠— and 6 things you could do with them

Thursday 28 April 2022

S - Sounds of Sex (#AtoZChallenge)

Squelching
Squealing
Slapping
Slamming
Slurping
Sliding
Sploshing
Slipping
Sighing
Oh  Shit YESSSSSSS!!!!!!!

Click this badge to see others' contributions.
Whilst I am not participating in the A-Z Challenge per se this year,
after a wonderfully noisy session last night,
I was inspired and couldn't let the 'S' challenge pass.


Wednesday 27 April 2022

Surrender #WriteBigSexyWords

Image from https://vsgif.com
from Game Of Thrones


My paramour's decadent lingerie
Clung to her succulent breasts
That filled the cups to o'flowing.
Her nipples thrust through the silk,
Pleading and begging me to suck them.
I was pliant putty under her spell.
My fever was rising
And my pole was rising,
Ready to unfurl
The flag of surrender.
WBSW

Saturday 23 April 2022

Having Her way with Me

I just met this Yummy Mummy a week ago and during our pillow talk she mentioned that her one kink was being blindfolded and tied up. So during the week, I went out and bought a red satin blindfold and some long red satin sashes.

A week later I got to see her again in the late afternoon. I showed her my present and suggested we could either tie her up or she could tie me up and have her way with me. She was surprised and enthused but didn't answer straight away. She stepped out for a couple of minutes so I got myself prepared, using one of the silk sashes to tie a big red bow around my 'crown jewels'.

When she came back in, I wished her "Happy Mmmmm-day" and she had a good laugh. She lay down with me for an introductory cuddle and deep French kissing. She still hadn't told me her preference, but then she reached around behind her, got the blindfold and placed it over my eyes. So this is her game. Now I'm not usually a submissive, but this could be interesting to have a sexy women using my body as her own sex toy to pleasure herself in whichever way and for as long as she wants. The ribbon is taken off the 'crown jewels' and my hands are tied above my head.

It is so true that when one of your senses is removed, your other senses all become heightened. I feel her move and apparently turn away. I hear a rustle  - "What is she up to?". Her face is close to mine, I can hear her breath. Her lips touch mine and I open mine to kiss, then she opens her mouth and spills cold water into mine (she apparently had turned to take a drink). Suddenly there is hot breath on my neck, then a wet tongue flicks my ear. Her long hair drapes over my face and chest, the hot lips suck my nipple, then teeth give it a bite. She moves up my body, reaching over me to hold my restrained wrist down and I am suddenly aware of her nipple being pressed into my mouth. I seize the opportunity to lick and suck and nibble, then I am able to kiss my way across her cleavage to engulf her other nipple.

Then they are withdrawn and I feel her breasts sliding down my body, slowing a little as as our nipples caress each other. Then she continues across my abdomen, then engulfs my shaft then down till they caress my ball sack. As they leave me, I jerk as I feel hot breath then her wet tongue sliding across, licking and twirling on my shaft. I flinch and thrust up a bit to meet her, but her arms are holding my legs down.

She slides back up my body in a full body slide. Our lips meet and swirl in passionate deep French kissing, just as her vulva slides across my shaft. Her hips and pelvis move up and down and she rubs her clit against me. Our kissing becomes more passionate as her hips work round and round and backward and forward on my cock. She presses her body hard on me till her labia spread over my shaft. OMG, this is so sensual. And she keeps working away on me and I can sense her ardour rising through our kissing.

Suddenly her weight lifts off my body. I feel her knees climbing along either side of my body. Then a different sensation touches my face. OMG! Her vulva presses to my lips. This is full on face sitting. Now I am no stranger to giving her the benefit of my Tongue Engine. But this is different. This is not something I'm doing to her, but rather something that she is doing to me for her pleasure.  I respond with my tongue and mouth, kissing, licking, sucking and nibbling. She pushes back, thrusting and twirling against my mouth and tongue. This is REAL French Kissing!

"Facesitting", Heinrich Lossow (1840—1897)
from "en.wikipedia.org"

After a good five minutes, with her arousal rising, she lifts off my face and moves back down my body. There is a pause and I feel her leaning over to one side. Then there is a cool feeling on my cock and I realize she is rubbing lube on me, then her vulva sits on me again. She is sliding up and down me, from rubbing her clit against my glans, hard, then she slides down till my glans slides across her vag. opening and slides between her labia minora. She works me backward and forward, increasing the pressure and speed, then a little round and round and side to side.

Now YM is normally prolifically semi-orgasmic, with many twitches, jerks and moaning. I can sense her arousal increasing as she switches back and forth between face sitting and cock sitting. She is on my face with my tongue going from shallow tongue fucking to clit licking and sucking. 

Her twitching and shaking is growing. She calls, "Oh My God, I'm coming". My arms are freed and despite my tied wrists I am able to bring my arms up over our bodies and pull her harder against me. Suddenly she has a massive orgasm with her whole body jerking and spasming. It seems to continue for ages, but probably only 30 seconds. They finally subside and she takes some deep breaths, then suddenly a massive after-shock hits. She subsides for another minute, then another after-shock.  She must have  8 or 10 after-shocks, slowly becoming less frequent, till she collapses against me breathless and covered in perspiration.

YM rolls off me, unties my wrists and removes my mask so we can cuddle into each other. After a couple of minutes rest, she reaches around to fetch something else, then I find her lubing herself and applying a condom to me. My erection is not particularly hard, but we manage a little shallow fucking. But my glans is a little sore from all her rubbing against me. So with a failing erection and with both of us still almost breathless, we roll apart for cuddles and pillow talk for our remaining few minutes. She confides in me that although she enjoys her sex work and usual arousal, it has been quite some time since she has a 'real' orgasm like this one.

I wouldn't call our time a dom-sub encounter, but I would highly recommend it. OMFG, I enjoyed myself greatly, despite being orgasm-less myself. It was enjoyable AND fun. I hope she comes again soon! Mmmm!




Saturday 16 April 2022

Peri-menopause meets Orgasm-Ejaculation-Dysfunction

As erotic fiction writers, we are obviously writing 'fiction', often from reminiscences of what is or once was or fantasizing about what we wish there was. But as we age, the reality of our personal sex lives can be very different. This is a real-life, warts and all story of such an encounter.

The Characters

CC (name changed even though I only know her working name) is a 50+ year old sex worker. I first met her 4 years ago and we immediately hit it off and we were able to share intimate details of our aging lives.  CC is now peri-menopausal, suffering night-sweats, dry vagina etc. starting to cause some issues for her work.

Now with CC being a mature age sex worker, she does tend to get a reasonable number of aged clients, including with erection implants (flexible rods and inflation devices). But she also has to put up with the young, immature wanna-be-studs with zero communication skills and zero understanding of female arousal. She gets rather tired and sore by such constant 'pounding' by these types. Such understanding is a big part of my own sexual maturing.

I am a septuagenarian now suffering OED. Regular ED (Erectile Dysfunction) hit about 10 years ago, then 3 years ago prostate cancer, treated with radiation therapy (that I have blogged about before). With a roasted prostate, ED and declining libido ensued. But with medication therapy, libido has improved somewhat and ED is addressed with sildenafil, compression ring, porn and arousal for usable erections. But actual orgasms are hard to come by and ejaculations not much more than a little pre-cum (no more 'cream pies', and vasectomy ensure no more babies) - thus OED.

As we shared our situations in a recent session, we agreed that our 'spirits are willing but our flesh is weak' (though I don't think this is quite how Matt.26:40-43 was meant to be interpreted).

Our Recent Session

I was fortunate that my personal situation was allowing me several days of uninterrupted respite time for myself for a change.  So there was no rush and CC and I relaxed in each other's arms, chatting, catching up, cuddling and kissing various erogenous zones.

As we discussed her dryness problems, I suggested that some oral lubrication was needed. CC jumped at the suggestion; cunnilingus is an activity that we have enjoyed since our first meeting. I am a great believer that 'she comes first'. I soon have her well lubricated and aroused. After several tremors and having become super-sensitive, I come up for more kissing, cuddling and chatting. We roll together for a little body-to-body arousal.

With my own OED issues, orgasm and ejaculation are no longer my goal. So when CC asks me what position I would like to go to next, I do not ask for a PIV position. Instead, I suggest she move on top and we can arouse each other by her rubbing her vulva along my erection (the 'pussy slide' or 'outercourse'). More lube has us slipping and sliding over each other. With CC in the 'driver's seat' she has full control about which parts of her body are being aroused, the moves and the timing. This is full on 'outercourse'. It brings to mind another lady I knew who used her labia in such an awesome way that I called it 'Deep French Fucking'.

CC is super aroused calling "Oh fuck. This is driving me crazy". It feels pretty good for me too. She slides up my shaft till her labia clasp my glans, then down again, then up and clasp again. A little shudder runs through her. Though my erection is full, I don't push the issue that I know will not have an ecstatic ending. Outercourse is sufficient for both of us at this age.

Hot and perspiring, we cuddle together for some finale kissing. I give her 'girls' one last lick and kiss before we head for the shower.


Tips for Outercourse Over 50

Image 'Gravity Sexual Health and Counseling';
original source of diagram unknown.


Friday 15 April 2022

Elust #148 - The Needy Princess

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Image courtesy of Kitty Sinclair. Photography by AT Glamour London.

Welcome to Elust 148

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.

Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions, it’ll be here at Elust.

Want to be included in Elust #149? Send in a post anytime and I'll add it to the next edition.

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Featured Post by the Winner of Elust Contest for March, The Barefoot Sub.

Threesome: The Clue Is In The Name

Erotic Fiction

Safe chapter 3

Droit de Seigneur 34

Maneater

The Needy Princess

For Sale by Owner

Moon Feather: Part 33: Clothes

The Shower

Strangers in the Den

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Diary of a Sex Educator: my job vs. dating

F For Friend

Are You Bad at Watching Porn?

9 Essentials for a Sex Vacation and How to Pack Them

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Kinks- Spankings

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Ageing and Changing

Erotic Non Fiction

Fucking Charlotte

Hellraiser

Surprise Visit

Poetry

The Right One

Sex Work

Balla Balla Bootcamp for a Mummy's Boy. A Duo with Miss Myers.





Sunday 10 April 2022

Erotica Wisdom


Image from Wikimedia commons

Remember, it's not the length of the sword that matters,
but the skill of the swordsman!

And remember, the PEN is mightier than the SWORD,
On the other hand, the TONGUE is mightier than the PEN is!

Click the button to read who else
has been Wicked this Wednesday!

Tuesday 15 March 2022

Elust #147 - Limited Edition

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Image courtesy of Vivienne Maricevic. Male Burlesk, Big Top Theater, NYC, 1982.

Welcome to Elust 147

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month.

Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions, it’ll be here at Elust.

Want to be included in Elust #147? Send in a post anytime and I'll add it to the next edition.

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Featured Post by the Winner of Elust Contest for February, Sir Thomas, The Cunning Linctus.

Limited Edition

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

How Many People Use Vibrators? +11 Vibrator Statistics

Erotic Fiction

An Unconventional Valentine

Droit de Seigneur 29

Third Sun

Moon Feather: Part 26: Ask Pretty

Female Domination Mistress Swears She is Driven by Love!

Teaching the Alien BDSM

Mutual Satisfaction

Erotic Non-Fiction

Commissioned Painting of Goddess Severa by Dirk Hooper

Rainbow in the Dark

Dear Dolly – a Jolene Fanfic piece

Nyotaimori

Sex Work

Culture & Debauchery in London

Bathtime

Duo with Maîtresse Nuit

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Let This Wolf Devour You, The sheep…

Dungeon Etiquette 101

“ESP ON THE BUTTOCKS” – first chapter of a book

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

The Lost Art of Phone Sex

Building a Mono-Poly Relationship, Maybe?

5 Ill-Advised Items I’ve Used as Sex Toys (& What I Should’ve Used Instead)

Books and Movies

The Lineage & Ancestry of Queer Kinky Erotica

Book Review- Neon Gods by Katee Robert (2021)

Writing about writing

Communicating With Other EROTICA Writers

 

Sunday 13 March 2022

The Needy Princess (#WBSW, #eroticfictiondeluxe)

(The 'Write Big Sexy Words' (#WBSW) challenge for March 2022 is to include as many of the following BSWs as possible in a post - bodacious, sapphic, opalescent, vessel, nectar, tryst, ravish, beckon, rend).

Princess Delilah strolled through the palace gardens, the summer warmth raising a sheen on her face and ample bosom. She was alone today, her sapphic maiden dresser had been called away to a family illness (so she said; it was in fact a secret tryst with her own true love).

Delilah settled on a grassy patch in the cool shade of an apple tree. She lifted her skirts and spread her legs where a shaft of sunlight warmed her loins. Her fingers danced across her womanhood, caressing and sliding through the moist folds. Her ardor was rising, after all it had been all of 3 hours since her maid had satisfied her after the matins. She needed relief again - she was a very needy princess.

She beckoned to her eunuch who was never far away, and directed him to bring her a vassal. She reached up and plucked a piece of the 'forbidden fruit' and as she bit into it, its juice tricked out of the corners of her mouth, down her chin and dripped onto her breasts.

Within a few minutes, he returned with a vassal on a leash, crawling along behind. She took the leash and drew the vassal to her. Her opalescent lips glistened in the sunlight, begging to be ravished. His hands grasped her bodacious bodice to rend it asunder and his tongue stretched out to lick the forbidden fruit juices. But she had very specific needs, so she pushed his head down between her legs. He knew his place and task well and proceeded to lick and slurp the nectar from her luscious womanly vessel.

(Origin unclear, appears on many web sites including Pinterest)

Once her quivering gasps subsided, she pushed him away. The eunuch took him back to his box, where he was able to relieve his own ache that had grown whilst he pleasured his mistress. With a spume of jissom, he flopped back on his bed. The eunuch looked on from a distance, jealous of the pleasure that he could never enjoy himself.

WBSW
Erotic Fiction Deluxe Prompt 54 'Retro'

Monday 7 March 2022

Is That All There Is? Back in My Day!

"Back in my day" there was no internet, no BLOGs, no word-processors, hell no personal computers. I learned to type by punching programs onto Hollerith cards. I had to write my thesis (300 pages) long-hand and send it off to be typed. I then wrote corrections in blue pencil and sent pages back for retyping. "Cut and Paste" was literally "Paper, Scissors, Clag"!

Unfortunately my teen sex life was similarly old fashioned DIY. Married life started 'not with a bang but a whimper' (yes, we were 25yo virgins in the Age of Aquarius, back in those days). 

One day in 1982, I had to fly across the country to Perth for work (a 2,700km flight), and took the opportunity for my first visit to a brothel. It was only one day's work and the flight home wasn't till midnight (the 'Red Eye'). Bored and horny, I went to a porn theatre after work. But that only made me feel worse. In the phone booth in the foyer I found several cards advertising sexual services. I selected a brothel in the general direction of the airport and hailed a taxi.

"The Brothel" by Vincent Van Gogh

It was a nondescript house in a suburban street. The interior was typical suburban 1970's nondescript. I remember I had my work briefcase with me, which the madam asked to search. In the room, ablutions consisted of a bowl of warm soapy water and a hand wash by the lady (no shower or spa bath like we find these days). The girl was nice enough, not that I remember much. I was as nervous as a kitten - I was only a couple months out of virginhood. The 'dom went on and the deed was over in under a minute - talk about premature ejaculation. I don't remember much else.

I do remember walking out thinking, "Is that all there is?". After all the stories of glitz and glamour and fabulous sexual adventures in brothels - is that all there is?

The $27 charge was low enough that I put the credit-card receipt through work as a dinner expense!

Well it was another 25 years of marital sex sliding from bad to sympathy to zero, before I took the plunge into brothel sex again, and finally my real sex education began. But that's another story, or rather BLOG of stories.

Thursday 24 February 2022

Limited Edition

My local pleasure palace is called "Spoilers". So for my 15th anniversary of enjoying the company of their Ladies Of Pleasure, I dug out my old screen printing equipment and printed myself a Limited Edition pair of celebratory jocks.

Sadly I don't think I can keep it up for another 15 years.



Wednesday 16 February 2022

Elust #146 - The Clitoral 'Erection'

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NOTE: All comments next to each link are my own, and I apologize in advance to any contributor if I have unwittingly misconstrued your writing. These comments are per. the Elust editor's competition challenge rule #5.)

Image courtesy of Sara Bella

Image courtesy of Mistress Luna.
Image courtesy of Sara Bella.

Welcome to Elust 145.

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #147? Start with the rules, and submit a post any time and it will be added to the next edition. Please enter your email address in the sidebar widget on Elust to subcribe to email updates!  

Erotic Fiction

The Baker’s Wife - Tabitha Rayne is rescuing stories from  her books that are no longer available due to publisher closing their doors. Reappearing as a collection as "Almost Pulped". This baker's wife "needs to be kneaded"!
Droit de Seigneur 27 - The Lords Right! "Yvain stared at the man she had married, before she was brought to the castle for the Seigneur to take her virginities."
Strangers on a Commute - My commutes home from work were never this good!
Precious Juice - A warning to all guys, "You cannot masturbate as much as girls do. Oh no! It's gonna be soon a dry river between your legs". Horror the thought!

Erotic Non Fiction

CUCKADOODLEDO! - 'Mistress Victory' recounts a phone-sex erotic BDSM encounter.
My New Strap On - The Barefoot Sub recounts her task for Sir, using a new strap-on (her first) on playmate Pink.
Cuckold Husband in Chastity Buys His Wife a Pearl Necklace - Oz BigDownUnder, services Mr Cuckold Husband and Mrs Hotty Hotwife in Dubbai.
Hands - Joy recounts "For as long as I can remember hands have been my favourite part of the male body: knuckles, fingers, palms, a glimpse of that little bone at the wrist peeking out from under a shirt cuff, just all of it."
My Bukkake Events are Back! - With easing of Covid restrictions, Sandra is back (with Oz) organising Bukkake Events (London, UK).
New Slave into Ballbusting and Small Dick Humiliation - Milady Goddess, introduces a new slave to her world of BDSM - ouch!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

6 Sustainable Tips For an Eco-friendly Sex Life - I hadn't really given this a thought before. Eco condoms, glass dildos instead of silicone/rubber, plastic free packaging, long wearing environmental friendly clothes (no nylon lingerie), organic lube, and rechargeable batteries in your toys. Great thoughts Ella!
What Type of Vibrator is Right For You? - I was a bit worried at first that this was a chick only post, then I got to the 'penis vibrator' - yah!
The Power of a Kiss - I'm like Tomi, the deep french kiss is such a turn-on. It has surprised me, as Tomi touches on, that there are people that aren't into kissing, and there are so many types of kissing in the spectrum.
Bookmarking: a strategy for prioritizing intimacy - 'Bookmarking'? What can that have to do with Lust? But of course Bridget weaves it in beautifully - balancing work/life/sex is something we all have to grapple with and prioritizing is so important. And Bridget's idea of learning to say 'pause it there' (bookmark that), so that you can 'resume' at a more appropriate time, is great. I gives a new perspective on 'coitus interruptus'!

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

A Goddess to Tease You Into Her Trap - Sakura's Domme Views - some Q&As on her fetishes.

Body Talk

H is for Hair Down There and Everywhere, Still Don’t Care - 'Sans cheveaux' or 'Hair sweet'?
The Clitoral 'Erection' - If only men understood women's anatomy better and learned to play her 'clitoral' instrument. Why can't men make love like a woman?

Writing about writing

Episodic - The issue with episodic writing (as distinct from writing a whole book) is that each episode must have a certain degree of completeness, without too many hanging questions that might not be answered till the very end of the book (or last episode).
Write the Erotica You Want to See In the World - "It can be just pure escapist drivel, too. All good art is allowed to have its escapist, check-out, dissociative, frivolous forms". "But it can also be radical. The erotica I love is gender affirming."

Sex-Work

Advice For When Booking an Independent Escort - From an escort to potential clients. Research before booking, communicate, be respectful of boundaries, privacy, time, paying and cleanliness.
How To Be Anonymous in the Adult Industry 2022 - Workers in the Adult Industry are under attack from both ends, from creepy, stalker 'clients', to oppressive moralistic laws posing as "protecting minors", to economic denial of 'sex work is still work' by denying access to basic banking facilities. Anonymity helps, but brings its own issues of being scammed and having work work stolen. 

Elust 145

Monday 7 February 2022

The Unholy Trinity

"Write Big Sexy Words" for February 2022
salacious, dalliance, cosset, frisky, intimacy, covet, wanton, idolatry, supplicate

I covet covert copulation
With a wickedly wanton wench.
A dalliance of delightful decadence
To cosset connubial consent,
For frantic frisky fornication
And sublime salacious supplication
For intrinsic inane intimacy.
Adultery, idolatry, frivolity,
The unholy trinity, content!

The Best Unholy Trinity Quotes
WBSW

The Clitoral 'Erection'

"WTF are you talking about Thomas? A 'Clitoral Erection'? Guys have erections - we all know about that and seen them. But a 'clit' is just the size of a pea, isn't it? How can a clit have an 'erection'?"

A Good Erection requires Perfect Alignment
of the Nuts and Bolts. ©tmurphyphotos

Some Anatomical Facts of Embryonic Development

Before c.2017, medical research of fetal development of the cavernosa was almost exclusively about penis development. In 2018, Baskin et al published "Development of the Human Penis and Clitoris".

This "VeryWell Mind" web-site  gives a good simplified introductory overview.

  1. The first 2 weeks after conception are the Germinal stage, up to when the multiplying cluster of cells implants in the uterine wall.
  2. Then comes the Embryonic stage; the cluster of cells have already differentiated into three layers. At about 4 weeks, the neural tube forms which will develop into the brain and nervous systems; the head is forming and the small cluster of cells that will become the heart start to pulse. By week 5, buds form that will become arms and legs, and internally, the circulatory system is forming. Specific to this post is the formation of a couple of very specific blood vessels, the 'corpus cavernosa' (note: there are two 'cavernosum'). These differ from arterial and venous vessels, in that they are full of a spongy cellular structure that swells as they fill with blood. These are the basis of the formation of the genitals. Note that at this stage, the embryo is still physically asexual. (Some researchers have claimed that all fetuses up to differentiation, are 'female', but personally I think 'asexual' better describes them).
  3. At around 6 weeks, it is in the Fetal stage. Around 14 weeks, the 'differentiation' process starts when gender specific organs develop. Specifically, in the male, the cavernosa become sheathed in skin which will become the penis. In the female, the cavernosa form the clitoral structure which becomes the base on which the labia grow to form the vulva. The full clitoral structure is shaped like a 'wish bone'; the 'head' of the clitorus is the female equivalent of the male's penis glans, and is the only part of the clitoral structure externally visible. The urethra passes between the two cavernosa 'legs' of the clitoris and the ends of the cavernosa form the entrance of the vagina, the 'G-spot'.

Anatomical Ability of a Clitoral Erection

So you can see that the female anatomy has an analogous internal structure to the penis, and thus is capable of an equivalent 'erection', even though shorter (average about 4"/10cm) than the average penis. Sure, the word 'erection' implies a structure arising (externally). So whilst the female cavernosa fill with blood and swell and harden like a penis, it is all internal, so technically not an 'erection' by the strictest definition of the word. 'HealthLine' has a good recent article on the subject, "14 Things to Know About Clitoral Erections".

So What Does a Clitoral 'Erection' Look Like. 

The head of the clit, it's glans, can swell and harden. The vulva swells slightly and the labia (lips) become full. The inner labia (minora) push out through the outer labia (majora). The labia become flushed (vive la chatte rouge). Some have described it as looking like a flower blossom opening. The bottom end of the labia spread the vaginal opening. Some have described it like the labia are whispering "Avanti! (Come in!)".

The Female Perspective - Some Questions

I won't presume to write about something that I've only observed a couple of times, and I'm relying on anecdotal descriptions and the little there is in the literature. But what I would really like is to get some feedback from my female readers (use the comments or write your own blog response). Are you aware of the ability of your clitoris to have an erectile type response? Apart from the outward visible engorgement/swelling of the clitoral head/glans, have you experienced full vulva engorgement, including 'blossoming' of the labia and 'gaping' vagina? Does arousal of your G-spot send feelings up the full length of your clitoral structure?

The Epidemic of (Sexually) Uneducated Males

Even medical web-sites like 'Healthline - Human Body Systems' describe the penis in detail under "Reproductive System (Male)", but "Reproductive System (Female)" only discusses the vagina (and uterus and Fallopian tubes); the vulva and clitoris are totally ignored. As long as sexual education only focuses on reproduction and not on sexual arousal, will the 'orgasm gap' continue!

The "orgasm gap" is well known, but the truth of the cause is not well understood. Men complain about their wives losing interest is sex, as if it's the wife's fault, when in fact it is the male's fault in that he never learned to arouse his wife, to give her any clitoral erections and orgasms. So often women have to satisfy themselves. Is it any wonder that some women turn to other female company, either 'bi' or lesbian, because a woman knows how another woman can be aroused - "Why can't a man love more like a woman?"

If only men were taught that women have an organ just like their penis and can have 'erections' just like them. Men need to learn to watch and learn from how women arouse themselves, massaging their clitoris head and their labia and vulva. Of course, another person can arouse in a way that a woman alone can't - the tongue!

NOTE TO ALL MEN - a women's sexual centre is NOT the vagina. From their teens, men learn that sex is all about their penis, its erection and orgasm, then when they start fucking women, it is still about their penis ejaculating into a vagina.

Do Dildos Perpetuate the Penis Preeminence Myth?

The promotion of dildos to women, I suspect is due to male owned sex toy manufacturers. When I read more honest women's reviews of dildo use, I hear women saying that with dildo-in-vagina they still don't reach orgasm. Is it any wonder that at least there is a move to clitoral stimulation 'toys'.

Outercourse vs Intercourse

One work-around is 'outercourse' where his penis and her vulva rub against and arouse each other. But in typical male fashion, he knows it as a "pussy slide", something that the woman does to him to arouse him. It was only recently that I read a woman's take, calling it a penis massaging her vulva. Perhaps its all about who's on top, "in the drivers seat"! (Of course the penis can be replaced with another vulva for intimate massaging.)

From this position, once both have been equally aroused, and her 'erection' is calling "Avanti", then it is a simple slide into coitus.

Good Sex is a Shared Experience - She Comes First

The number one rule of good sex is that he delays his gratification, focusing on her arousal with extended fore-play, until "She comes first!".


Thursday 20 January 2022

"To All The Girls I've Loved Before" Sing Along

I've been musical all my life, from boy soprano, through church choir, when my voice broke to bass-baratone. Then a folk music trio in high school, then later a gospel quartet, and some solo work.

So often a mathematical mind goes hand-in-hand with music, and I find music and songs going round in my head most times of the day.

Having written recently about Lust Lost and Found, Ten Out Of Ten  (year in review) and earlier about my Little Black Spreadsheet, and during this Covid voluntary self 'isolation', I've picked up on brushing up on some programming skills (HTML and CSS), I thought it was time to collect some statistics and put together a 'tag cloud', of sexual encounters over the last 15 years.

With Hal David's song "To All The Girls I've Loved Before" (performed variously by Willie Nelson, Julio Iglesias, et al) as my inspiration:-

To All The Girls I've Loved Before (2007-2021)

Notes: # of encounters is in brackets; Hover over a name to get the name of the establishment(s).
Click the next to a name to go to posts on The Cunning Linctus blog about the subject lady!

Amanda (1) Mai (1) Montana (1)
May (1) Britney (1) Amanda (1) Yumi (1) Yuri (1) Lilly (1) Kim (1) Anna (1) Windy (1) Mayar (1) Yuri (1) 'anon' (1) Gigi (1) Sakura (1) Niko (1)
Crystelle (1) Jordan (1) Josie (1) Tiffany (1) Trish (1) Jessica (1) Aysha (5) 'anon' (1) CoCo (1) Coco & Sophie (1) Hanni (1) Kay (1) Naomi (1)
Celina (1) Simone (1) Victoria (1) Jessie (1) Rebecca (4) Meghan (9) Crystal (3) Pattie (1) Angelique (1) Laura (1) Sonia (1) Roxy (1)
Kim (3) Jade (3) Sandy (4) Crystal (10) Daniella (19) Chanel (9) Alex (3) Jade (3) Jane (3)
Sam (3) Emma (2) April (15) Ruby (45) Kaz (14) Kaycee (3) Jane (3)
Angela (2) Brenda (2) Sienna (2) Amber (8) Grace (12) Veronica (6) Tori (2) Diane (2) Eva (2)
Anastasia (1) Ella (2) Jess (2) Linda (2) Zoya (2) May (2) Phoenix (2) Isabella (2) Candice (2) Marley (2) Jemma (1)
Belle (1) Cristal-Hot-Babe (1) Jenny (1) Sylvan (1) Vanessa (1) Nicki (2) Vanessa (1) Kelly (1) Roxy (1) Pako (1) Jennifer (1)
Nikita (1) Dior (1) Foxy (1) Michelle (1) Simone & Veronica (1) Cassie (1) Montana (1) Simone (1) Imogen (1) Kim (1) Mandy (1) Celeste (1)


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