Let me start with an apology to any readers that might find this subject matter confronting. As broad-minded sex bloggers, we must sometimes confront the bad, the ugly and sometimes simply different preferences to our own. But hang in to the end as I draw the threads together!
I came across this quote recently on Twitter (@LostSoul2809). The thinking here seems to be that whores are MILFs that fuck with boundless, unbridled passion.
Fucking Like a MILF vs Fucking Like a Whore
Sure, a small percentage of whores are of MILF age. But the quality of sex is never dependent on the marital or parental status of a person or whether money has changed hands. Quality is always dependent on the connectedness and caring between a couple.
The types of whores and their services are as varied as the men that see them.
Whoredom - Who, Why, What!
To understand their services, one needs to understand the different reasons girls/women get into "whoredom".
- Quick money, typically students, for a limited time, though sometimes looking for a 'husband' for a 'green-card'. Experience ranges from the neophyte to the libidinous dilettante. The key words are "quick" and "money".
- A sub-set of the above, are the 'sex doll' types. They think their looks are all that is needed to hook a guy, but sex is a 'star fish' experience, a cum-dump receptical - easy money.
- The partnered worker. Generally a bit older, 25 upwards, with a husband, partner or boyfriend, though typically not yet a MILF. Her service will be colder, reserving kissing, fingering, oral-on-her, orgasms etc., for her partner.
- The divorced, separated or widowed. Perhaps with no career backup and sometimes raising children alone, sex work provides a comfortable income with flexible hours. They are generally more sexually experienced, the classic 'MILF', although a wide range of experience is found. Some are reserved, others never want a man in their personal life again, and use their sex work to satisfy their own sexual needs (with the right type of client). This is my play-ground.
- The professionals have made sex work their career. They have trained in specialist/extreme techniques and the line between professional actress and personal enjoyment is blurred.
Orgasms, Enjoyment or Mattress Actresses
I would venture a guess that only 2% of 'whores' orgasm sometimes and perhaps 30% 'enjoy' the sex, from a lot to a little. They all tolerate it for the money. They are not called "mattress actresses" for nothing - "faking it till he makes it" is very much the norm.
Then of course there is 'The Clock' - fucking stops when the money/time runs out. Do you really want to or expect your partner to 'fuck like a whore'?
Kink, Consent and Expectations
On the other hand, if you you have flirted and seduced with the sole purpose of a NSA one-night-stand to satisfy your own sexual kink, then by all means, 'fuck like a whore'. Just make sure you are both fucking from the same play-book and understand each other's expectations.
The Attraction of MILFs (and GILFs)
As a term, 'MILF' is rather derogatory, often used by young men with no idea about respect or maturity. It is especially disrespectful as a call-out to a person that you know nothing about, based purely on appearance.
But as a concept, I think it is something to be treasured and aspired to. As a self ascribed label, a woman is asserting her sexual desirability irrespective of age - desire doesn't stop after children. Once the pressure of trying to find "the one", a life partner, is past, then the biological clock of having a family, a woman over forty can put all that behind her. Sex should now be for fun and pleasure alone. She is at her sexual prime. A lot of promotion is put into 'Work/Life' balance, but we really need to put more effort into our 'Life/Sex' balance.
But wait. Let's not be sexist. Ladies, do you dream of your FILTH (Father/husband I Love To Hump)?
Vive la MILF (and GILF, even GrGILF, and FILTH)! (Speaking as a self proclaimed DOM!)